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Online Dating for Alternative Lifestyles at Consonance (Gleichklang)

Our psychological matchmaking and dating platform enables people with ecological-alternative interests and attitudes to effectively search for partnerships and friendships by determining lifestyle compatibility:

Online Dating for Alternative Lifestyles at Consonance (Gleichklang)

  • The matchmaking is open to all singles who are seriously looking for a romantic relationship and can identify with the socio-ecological and alternative dating system of Consonance (Gleichklang). Friendship matchmaking is open to everyone, regardless of whether they are single or already have a partner. Many Consonance couples continue their search for friendships and travel partners at Consonance after a successful match.
  • Consonance (Gleichklang) offers its members a different and better online dating experience that makes their partner and friendship search successful. Unlike the major matchmaking services and dating platforms, Consonance does not try to win every single person as a member. Rather, Consonance, with its partner and friendship search, exclusively addresses people who think socially, ecologically, humanely, and solidaristically. This makes love relationships and friendships of particularly high intimacy, intensity, connection, and durability possible.
  • Consonance (Gleichklang) is therefore more than just any platform for online dating or one of the many dating sites, dating apps, partner exchanges, or matchmaking agencies. Rather, Consonance is a serious, psychologically sound, and alternative matchmaking and dating platform where people meet who share fundamental values. Through the systematic consideration of lifestyle characteristics, Consonance supports the shared living of alternative ways of thinking and relationship forms between people that have an emancipatory character and are oriented towards the ideas of justice, tolerance, profundity, fairness, and reflection.

People of all genders, gender identities, and sexual orientations are of course welcome at our matchmaking and dating platform to search for love, partnership, friendship, projects and communities, leisure activities, groups and regulars’ tables, or professional collaborations:

  • We are committed to our heterosexual members just as much as to our queer, homosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual, asexual, pansexual, omnisexual, polysexual, multisexual, skoliosexual or sapiosexual members. Members with a fluidity of their sexual orientation, including homoflexible and heteroflexible members, have just as high a chance of successfully finding a partner at Consonance as members whose sexual orientation is constant.
  • Most members at Consonance identify as male or female. However, we also effectively support the partner search of our non-binary, transgender (trans identity), intersexual members or our members who, in the sense of genderqueer, have a particular fluidity of their gender identity.

Online Dating for Different Relationship Models at Consonance (Gleichklang)

The prerequisite for a happy and fulfilling partnership is the compatibility of relationship models. Because conflicts, frustration, toxic relationships, or breakups are inevitable if the fundamental relationship models contradict each other in a partnership:

  • Most Consonance members are looking for a monogamous relationship with one person. Monogamy means sexual exclusivity and fidelity in a relationship. Sexual contact with third parties outside the partnership is not permitted according to a monogamous agreement.
  • Likewise, there are members at Consonance who are looking for open relationships, swinger relationships or polyamorous relationships (polyamory). Open relationships are a romantic two-person relationship in which, however, sexual contact with other people outside the relationship is possible, based on transparency and honesty. Swinger relationships are relationships in which a couple has sexual contacts with other people or couples, but without a romantic component. A polyamorous relationship means that a person has two or more partners. Love and sexuality are thus lived with more than one other person at the same time. In some polyamorous relationships there are primary and secondary partners, in others this distinction does not apply. Polyamory can also become a group relationship when at least three people mutually maintain a love relationship with each other.
  • Psychological studies show that all these relationship models can lead to happy and stable partnerships with care and sexual passion. However, partnerships become unhappy when the relationship models of those involved do not match. Particularly damaging to relationships is an agreement to monogamy that is not actually kept. Infidelity is a form of dishonesty that often leads to conflicts, emotional pain, or separation. An evaluation by us showed that Consonance couples who agree on and maintain monogamy, as well as Consonance couples who live polyamorously or in an open relationship, achieve equally high relationship stability. In contrast, couples where one or both people are unfaithful often end up separating.

To ensure a high and lasting level of relationship happiness, our psychological matching algorithm specifically suggests members to each other who can build a happy shared life together. This is an important difference between our psychologically based online matchmaking and dating apps or dating sites, where people primarily get to know each other based on proximity of residence and uploaded photos, but ultimately do not match in their relationship models.

Beyond the design of sexuality, there are other relationship models that are taken into account in our matchmaking:

  • Many people looking for a partner wish for a partnership with a shared apartment. They want to live their relationship with a lot of physical closeness. This means a shared daily life spatially, which includes both the big things and the small everyday routines.
  • There are also people for whom closeness can become too much, especially when it comes to daily physical proximity. This is particularly true for people who place great value on independence even in relationships. For these people, there are the two alternative relationship models “Living Apart Together” with two separate apartments in the same place of residence or the model of a long-distance relationship.
  • Other people seeking a partner can imagine both a relationship with close physical proximity and a relationship with separate living arrangements or a long-distance relationship, as there are different forms of relationships for them, all of which they can shape and appreciate well.
  • Psychological studies again show that all these forms of spatial relationship design work reliably and can lead to viable, happy, and stable partnerships. However, the prerequisite again is that the relationship models harmonize with each other, so that the relationship form can be chosen or established that is associated with a high level of satisfaction for both parties involved.

In online matchmaking, Consonance (Gleichklang) also brings together those people with regard to preferred spatial proximity who have a comparable relationship model. This increases the chances that a relationship between them will be happy in the long term.

Gebauer also works as a coach and interested parties can book a personal coaching appointment with him.

Partner and friendship search is supported by a psychological matching algorithm based on extensive research, which sustainably improves the chances of success. In fact, our long-term follow-up surveys of Consonance couples show that most stay together and remain happy.

Diversity and Inclusion in Online Dating at Consonance (Gleichklang)

As a matchmaking and dating platform, Consonance (Gleichklang) does not engage in ageism or age discrimination:

  • People of all age groups have a good chance of successfully completing their partner search at Consonance. The average age at Consonance is 50 years, and partner search 50+ is the largest group. This also applies to seniors, who receive fewer suggestions but still achieve the same matching chances at Consonance. The reason is that seniors looking for a partner more often succeed in making more out of a suggestion and entering into building a relationship. The lower number of partner suggestions for our older members is thus fully compensated, and the chances of success are equal. Incidentally, Consonance is also suitable as a platform for establishing intergenerational friendships. Two articles in our psychology blog show how older people looking for a partner can find fulfilling relationships through online dating: Distance, closeness, age and independence, Love stories at an older age, new partnerships at an older age.

It is also very close to our hearts to offer effective online dating for people with disabilities, chronic illnesses, mental health disorders or problems, HIV, sexual dysfunctions:

  • We query all these conditions in order to effectively support our members in their partner search. At the same time, we ask all members whether they have acceptance and appreciation for a partnership or friendship with corresponding people. We then use this as the basis for matching.
  • As a result, members with disabilities, chronic illnesses, mental health disorders or problems, HIV, sexual dysfunctions or, for example, autistics are suggested other people in their partner search who already bring acceptance and appreciation. This makes a relaxed and effective partner search possible.

Likewise, Consonance (Gleichklang) enables effective online dating for single parents:

Following the acceptance principle, we ask all members whether they would also like to enter into a partnership with a single mother or a single father. As a result of the matchmaking, these participants then receive exactly those partner suggestions at Consonance where this acceptance is present. This can considerably facilitate the partner search for single parents.

A Dating That Excludes No One! at Consonance (Gleichklang)

One feature of Consonance compared to dating apps and large matchmaking agencies is also our fees, which exclude no one:

  • Participation at Consonance is fee-based. This prevents multiple identities and jokers from participating in the matchmaking. Because free offers generally attract image collectors and unserious people. However, the fees at Consonance are very moderate. They are 7–10 times cheaper than comparable providers of a sound psychological matchmaking. They also allow simultaneous participation in partner search, friendship search, and the search for travel companions.
  • For people in financial need, a purely symbolic social rate is offered so that participation at Consonance never has to fail due to financial constraints. Consonance is designed so that you can stay with us until your partner and friendship search has been successful.
  • There are no privileged or premium memberships at Consonance. Everyone is treated equally. Consonance is thus the sustainable alternative for an effective, human-centered partner search that consciously sets itself apart from the superficiality of dating apps that focus only on short-term effects, as well as most other matchmaking services, dating sites, and dating offers.

 

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