The Consonance (Gleichklang) Difference: Curated Matches for Meaningful Relationships
As a specialized matchmaking agency and dating platform, Consonance (Gleichklang) does not offer partner suggestions in mass lists. Instead, Consonance stands for a dating approach that applies the principle of selective matchmaking in the matchmaking process. This principle consists of providing a limited number of partner suggestions over time until success is achieved.
The most important criterion is the compatibility of existing relationship-related desires, preferences, and mutual lifestyles according to our psychological matchmaking algorithm. This is what sets Consonance apart from a dating app or a dating site. But even the major online matchmaking services ultimately tend to rely more on the sheer volume of suggestions.
Dating as Compatibility
Consonance stands for an approach to online dating that seeks people who truly fit together. For this reason, Consonance as a dating community does not try to recruit every single person as a member. Rather, Consonance offers effective partner search to those singles who are characterized by ecological and social interests and who value tolerance, compassion, ecology, diversity, and solidarity. In this sense, Consonance is an alternative matchmaking service and getting-to-know-you platform.
Online dating at Consonance is therefore structured differently than dating apps:
- Dating apps are about many contacts, conversation, liveliness, and flirting. Everything is designed for short-term interactions; profiles are swiped away in the blink of an eye or marked as interesting. Many users are looking more for erotic encounters or purely online exchanges. Among the users are numerous married or otherwise attached individuals who have no serious interest in finding a partner. The primary focus is solely on physical appearance.
Mass lists do not promote effective matchmaking; rather, they harm it because mass lists create extreme interference among different partner suggestions. You can’t see the forest for the trees. If all members receive, for example, 100 or even more suggestions, then the chances of success for any individual suggestion are vanishingly small. As someone interested, you would have to write to someone against infinite competition from other suggestions, and the probability is low that you as a person will even be noticed by the suggested person. Mass lists are therefore an obstacle to a genuine partner search and certainly not useful.
Different from a Dating App
Here, Consonance as a psychological online matchmaking service takes a completely different approach:
- In Consonance’s online dating, finding a partner is viewed as a rare event. The partner search process has the goal of achieving this rare event. For 300 days, the rare event may not occur, but if it occurs on day 301, Consonance has been successful. The matchmaking at Consonance is therefore exclusively optimized to maximize the probability of this rare event occurring for every member. Our success evaluations show that this actually works. It may happen quickly or take several years; but anyone who stays with Consonance will one day find a partnership. At the same time, our long-term follow-up surveys of Consonance couples show that the vast majority remain together and happy with each other.
Another special feature of matchmaking at Consonance is the strong reference to psychology and psychological methods. Using psychological methods, Consonance seeks out those people for each other who truly match. In the Consonance Blog, Consonance co-founder and psychologist Dr. Guido F. Gebauer presents the psychological principles of partner search and friendship search at Consonance and explains them through weekly updated articles. In addition, he has published his book “A Perfect Match? Online Dating from a Psychological Perspective,” a comprehensive description of online dating with numerous psychologically sound recommendations. In addition to purchasing the printed book, the entire text can also be read in this free knowledge resource at Consonance.
Unlike a dating app or most dating sites, Consonance’s ambition is not to provide entertainment and as many contacts as possible. Rather, Consonance’s sole ambition is that one day the partner for a happy and lasting relationship is actually found. Singles who are seriously looking for a partnership therefore find the right contact person at Consonance to advance their partner search. Singles who are not yet really clear about their relationship wishes or who are looking for casual contacts are better off with dating apps or dating sites than at Consonance.
Dating and Inclusion
Inclusion in all areas of life is also very important to Consonance:
- We facilitate monogamous two-person relationships as well as open relationships, swinger relationships, and polyamorous constellations (polyamory). Psychological studies show that with openness and transparency, people in all of these relationships can find happiness.
- People of all sexual orientations and gender identities can bring their partner search and friendship search to success at Consonance. We are here for our heterosexual members, women and men, as well as for the queer community and genderqueer individuals—that is, members with non-binary gender identities, sexually or gender-fluid people, gay men, lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals and polysexuals, skoliosexuals (attraction to non-binary people), asexuals, or also sapio-sexual members who are sexually attracted solely through intellect.
- Members with disabilities, handicaps, physical illnesses such as cancer, multiple sclerosis, heart disease, or diabetes, mental illnesses such as depression or anxiety disorders, sexual dysfunctions, HIV, or autistics are also effectively supported by Consonance through our acceptance principle. If the members concerned wish, they will only receive suggestions where acceptance of their respective conditions exists.
Dating with High Chances of Success
To promote individual communication processes of sufficient depth, with Consonance dating you receive a limited number of suggestions over time—and this continues until the right person who truly matches you is found. This makes online partner search easier and more effective.
Every day, members of Consonance find partners for a shared life path in this way. Long-term singles and so-called Absolute Beginners, who have no relationship experience yet, can also find their partner happiness at Consonance. In fact, Consonance supports Absolute Beginners with a specific matchmaking approach that enables them to meet people who show understanding for their situation.
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