Consonance (Gleichklang) as a Dating Community
The Consonance (Gleichklang) community is a member community, meeting community, and dating platform of people seeking partnership, friendship, travel companions, projects, communities, professional collaborations, or shared activities in nature. The matchmaking is done using methods of psychology. We enable a different form of dating that is not focused on quick contacts and distraction, but is designed for sustainable relationship building. In our community, people of all sexual and romantic orientations as well as all genders are welcome.
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The Possibilities of Dating at Consonance (Gleichklang)
These various comprehensive possibilities for finding relationships are supported by Consonance through different modules that are available to all members:
- Partnership and love (Online dating module): To support you in establishing a genuine love relationship, our system continuously searches for a suitable person with whom true love can develop.
- Finding friends and travel companions (Friendship search module): In addition to love relationships, friendships are an important source of our social grounding and joy in life. If you are looking for people for a deeper friendship, we support this at Consonance (Gleichklang) in a similar way to how we enable finding love relationships. In the friendship search module at Consonance (Gleichklang), you can also set that you are looking for travel companions, either in addition to or even exclusively. Finding friends is not an easy task in a time when human relationships are becoming interchangeable, distraction through short-term online stimuli dominates the daily lives of many, and AI systems intervene in our relationships. At Consonance (Gleichklang), people meet who continue to value genuine friendship.
- Sexual encounter and eroticism: Members of Consonance (Gleichklang) can indicate both in the area of online dating and in the area of friendship search whether they are interested in sexual or erotic encounters that do not necessarily have to be tied to a committed relationship. With this, we aim to open up space through our relationship-oriented dating for a sexuality based on appreciation, mindfulness, and mutual fulfillment that – with the consent of all involved – can allow both freedom and closeness. Our matching algorithm ensures that people come together who are congruent in their sexual desires and experiences and who can meet each other’s ideas in a good way. In this way, we want to enable sexual connection to arise where it is supported and desired by both sides.
- Community contact lists: The community contact lists are another central module of our meeting platform. On the various lists, you can find people for ecological, social, or animal rights projects, communities for solidarity-based living, professional collaborations, or sustainable activities in nature. Solidarity projects, farm sanctuaries, or multi-generational initiatives can provide relief, connection, and a sense of meaning and mutual support.
Dating for Your Online Dating
The search for romantic partners takes place through the online dating module. For this, Consonance provides a matchmaking service that, based on a psychological matching algorithm, searches for suitable people over time and suggests them. The special feature of Consonance’s matchmaking is that we combine the individuality and personal support of classic matchmaking with the efficiency and expanded search scope of online matchmaking, and additionally with a psychological approach. We match based on compatibility of values and thus go beyond what dating apps offer their users. Dating thus becomes genuine encounter rather than an ever-continuing process that closes off contacts and the people behind them.
Dating for Your Friendship Search
The search for friends or travel companions takes place at Consonance (Gleichklang) within the framework of the friendship search. Finding friends is an important additional motivation for many and even the sole motivation for some members to participate at Consonance. We consciously distinguish between friendship search and online dating because both areas fulfill different needs. You can participate in both simultaneously or focus exclusively on the friendship search or only on online dating. Friendships are often underestimated, although psychological studies show that they can contribute almost as strongly to our quality of life as romantic relationships. That is why we give the friendship search independent weight in our psychological system of encounter-centered dating, in order to comprehensively support our members in experiencing social connection.
Dating for Communities, Projects, and Solidarity-Based Living
In the community contact lists, you are not searching for a single person but choose a topic that moves you and that you want to integrate into your life. The shared thematic focus connects people with each other, and from this connection, friendships or partnerships can also develop. The focus is less on contact between two individuals but on the encounter of several people who share common interests and values and network with each other within the framework of solidarity-based life connections. Especially communal forms of engagement enable the experience of belonging that is difficult to create alone. People come together here because they share similar longings for cooperation, responsibility, and a supportive community. In this way, contacts can emerge that are strengthening both in everyday life and in engagement and that open up new perspectives. In the German-speaking area, Consonance is the only dating platform that also includes a search for communities.
Fulfilling Sexual Experience Through Relationship-Oriented Dating
At Consonance (Gleichklang), a space also opens up in the sexual realm where people can find appreciative and mindful sexual experience within the framework of relationship-oriented dating. The focus is not on sexuality as consumption-oriented stimulus stimulation, as often prevails in today’s society, but on encounter based on openness, mutual respect, and genuine interest. People meet here because they share similar ideas of closeness, freedom, and responsibility. This allows a sexual experience to emerge in which participants feel seen, taken seriously, and respected in their dignity. This form of sexuality combines physical and emotional resonance and opens up possibilities that can hardly emerge in purely superficial contact. In this way, sexuality becomes an area that strengthens, enriches, and deepens human connection.
Overcoming Loneliness and Lack of Bonding
Side Effects of Modern Dating Systems
More and more people suffer from loneliness and lack of bonding, not despite but because of modern dating systems and dating apps. Studies report dating burnout. On the one hand, dating sites are used addictively; on the other hand, boredom and emptiness arise. Dating apps are therefore among the applications on the internet that are most frequently deleted and reinstalled. The reason for this is that the structure of modern dating systems is not designed for actual relationship building, but for entertainment, distraction, and consumption.
Our Alternative
At Consonance (Gleichklang), we counter this trend with an alternative concept and enable a different form of dating in which genuine encounter and the building of appreciative relationships are at the center of the entire platform and community.
Loneliness arises from the loss of social bonds and is increasingly evident in a time when consumerism, status symbols, and a structure focused on individual need satisfaction are gaining importance. As a result, more and more people experience loneliness, regardless of age or gender. In addition, modern online dating often reduces human encounters to chat and flirt processes. These dating systems offer virtual distraction that cannot replace real connection, but actually hinders it. This promotes a form of internal disconnection that leads to painful boredom and emptiness of meaning.
Support for Long-Term Singles
Particularly affected by loneliness are long-term singles and Absolute Beginners, i.e., people who have not had a relationship for a long time or have never been in a relationship. Their loneliness arises not only from the absence of a partnership but from the lack of supportive interpersonal connection and from societal expectations that present partnership as necessary. At the same time, friendships and social relationships embedded in a meaningful context can reach or contribute to the level of happiness of a satisfying partnership. At Consonance (Gleichklang), we consistently work to counteract social bondinglessness. Our goal is to enable reliable interpersonal connections for all members – including long-term singles and Absolute Beginners – with the help of psychologically based and encounter-oriented online dating, and, if desired, to also open the path to a partnership.
Differences of Our Dating Community from Dating Apps
Dating apps significantly shape the expectations and ideas with which people today enter into online dating or relationship search. However, their functional principle is predominantly based on short-term reward mechanisms that tend to hinder rather than promote the process of genuine relationship building.
At the center of our alternative dating is the fundamental principle that it is neither about scrolling nor swiping, but solely about the right person or persons coming into focus at the right time with whom a lasting partnership, a reliable friendship, or a shared project can develop.
Although Consonance (Gleichklang), like dating apps, is a platform through which people can initiate romantic and intimate relationships, unlike dating apps, Consonance also places an equal emphasis on friendships, travel partnerships, and community-oriented contacts and projects.
Dating apps base their matchmaking almost exclusively on photos and geodata. Encounters therefore occur primarily along lines of external attractiveness and spatial convenience. A compatibility of life themes, values, relationship ideas, or life plans of the people involved remains largely unconsidered.
This often leads to superficial contacts and to the principle of Liquid Love described by Zygmunt Bauman:
- Relationships lose commitment, become interchangeable, and adapt to market-oriented logics. Not infrequently, this results in a feeling of alienation or loneliness.
Since its founding in 2006, Consonance has therefore consistently focused on the compatibility of life concepts, values, relationship models, and life goals. In contrast to a dating app, Consonance is not about quick interactions, flirt-oriented dynamics, or short-lived virtual communication forms, but about the initiation and development of sustainable interpersonal relationships. Dating becomes genuine relationship building through online dating focused on depth and encounter and the possibility of actually finding friends.
It is important that you become aware of the differences to dating apps and reflect on your own expectations:
Because the expectations shaped by dating apps will not be fulfilled at Consonance (Gleichklang). Conversely, with us you have the opportunity to build lasting relationships, partnerships, friendships, and communities.
From a psychological perspective, this article explains in more detail what dating apps actually do and why we should free ourselves from the expectations they create for genuine encounter. Feel free to also watch our video “Wanted Loneliness – The Shocking Mechanisms of Dating Apps”. It vividly shows how these mechanisms work and why they often do not lead to stable relationships.
Differences from Online Matchmaking Services
In relation to other online matchmaking services, Consonance (Gleichklang) has both similarities and differences:
- As an online matchmaking service, Consonance (Gleichklang) ensures that only people whose online dating is serious participate. Like other matchmaking services, Consonance uses a psychological matching algorithm to bring suitable people into contact with each other.
- At the same time, Consonance differs from the well-known dating platforms and matchmaking services through its value-oriented focus as a Green Dating platform. The focus is on bringing together people who want to contribute to making the world a little better through their relationships. For many members, ecological responsibility, plant-based lifestyle, solidarity, diversity, and minimalism play a central role.
- The orientation of dating at Consonance toward ecological and humane principles reinforces our approach that emphasizes genuine encounters. Because people who think ecologically and sustainably seek relationships more seriously and are less interested in self-presentation, entertainment, or constant distraction through gamified dating.
- Free trial participations are avoided because experience shows that they lead to a high proportion of non-committal or unserious profiles and often serve as a tool to move users to later paid premium offers. By avoiding free trial offers in dating, the seriousness of all participants is strengthened. At the same time, Consonance relies on fair, affordable, and socially adjusted fees so that no one is excluded.
- Consonance’s matching algorithm takes into account individual preferences, wishes, values, relationship ideas, and life goals. Most other online matchmaking services, in contrast, work more with general personality traits and rather broad similarity assumptions.
The Path to Genuine Connection
We understand Consonance (Gleichklang) as a path to genuine connection:
- In a society increasingly focused on consumption, superficiality, and mutual instrumentalization, we support our members in actually getting in touch with each other and establishing valuable relationships. Valuable relationships do not arise through entertainment, variety, scrolling through profiles, short hello messages, constant comparisons, or the ongoing hope for a supposedly better contact in online dating. Rather, valuable relationships arise when people meet who have a genuine relationship interest and are willing to explore the possibilities of building love, friendship, compatibility, and community together.
- The service of Consonance (Gleichklang) for you therefore does not consist of constantly providing new profiles so that you have a feeling of choice, entertainment, or distraction from boredom, or can present yourself. Rather, our service as an encounter-centered dating platform is to provide a space for encounter and to attract people who are interested in genuine human encounter.
For 20 years, we have been fostering relationships as one of the oldest dating platforms in the German-speaking area that are characterized by the depth of their connection and move beyond superficiality and indifference. We believe it speaks for itself that we are now among the oldest dating platforms in Germany and have been continuously developing our platform together with and for our members for 20 years.
Values, Diversity, and Fee Structure
As an alternative dating platform, we distinguish ourselves from mainstream platforms in the dating sector by the fact that our community is carried by people who orient themselves toward ecological-social values, inclusion and diversity and want to realize these in their relationships and life plans.
The Consonance (Gleichklang) community supports the online dating and friendship search of members of all ages, starting from the age of 18. The average age at Consonance is currently 50 years, but the age distribution ranges from 18 years to over 90 years. In the friendship and community areas, we also particularly support the development of intergenerational connection. Online dating from age 50 and online dating for seniors are also at the heart of our dating community.
Our fee structure is also designed in line with these values to support a community and solidarity-based principle through fairness, transparency, affordability, and social discounts.
Our experience shows that a platform alone does not automatically lead to stable relationships, but that support from people is necessary and helpful to achieve the desired relationship goal through appropriate attitudes and effective usage behavior. That is why at Consonance (Gleichklang), member support and assistance for our members in their relationship search carries great weight. This support is provided by directly reachable staff and not by AI systems. In addition, our weekly psychological blog articles on relationship psychology and our video channel on the psychology of online dating offer valuable, action-oriented information that supports our members in their search and process.
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