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Online Dating and Matchmaking for Different Relationship Constellations

We advise those searching for a partner to carefully reflect on their own needs and possibilities in order to find the right relationship model for them. In our matchmaking service, we ensure that individuals with comparable relationship models come together. This way, during dating at Consonance, the right people meet and can build a happy future together.

Monogamous, Open, or Polyamorous

  • Most singles searching for a partner at Consonance (Gleichklang) are looking for a classical relationship with two people who live together in a monogamous partnership, meaning they agree to sexual fidelity.
  • There are also singles at Consonance seeking a polyamorous relationship (polyamory). A polyamorous relationship (sometimes abbreviated as a poly relationship) is understood as a relationship between more than two people based on freedom, appreciation, love, and fairness. In this setup, the respective partners can either have additional partners separately, or it can be a group relationship where more than two people maintain sexual-romantic relationships with each other. A trigamy, for instance, is a relationship between three people. Often there are primary and secondary partners in polyamorous constellations, but there are also polyamorous relationships where no distinction is made between primary and secondary partners.
  • Additionally, there are singles who are not seeking a polyamorous relationship but rather an open relationship. In an open relationship, the partnership remains a relationship between two people, but both sides have the possibility to occasionally maintain erotic contacts with others. In a swinger relationship, these sexual contacts with other people or couples are pursued together. Open relationships and swinger relationships can also be combined. A combination of polyamory, open relationship, and swinger relationship is also possible.

At Consonance (Gleichklang), our matchmaking service supports all of these relationship models. The psychological background for this is that studies show that monogamous, polyamorous, open, and swinger relationships can all lead to happy and stable partnerships when transparency, openness, and appreciation are present.

Sexual, Asexual, and Platonic Relationships

  • There are people who desire a romantic relationship but without any sexuality. These include asexual individuals, or also people who are not asexual but still do not wish for sexuality in a relationship for various possible reasons. These singles are looking for a platonic relationship at Consonance. There are also individuals searching for a partner who can imagine both: a partnership with sex and a partnership without sex. Such individuals can indicate at Consonance that they are looking for a relationship without sex, specifying that they are exclusively seeking asexual partners, or they can also state that they are open to a relationship without sex.
  • For those seeking a partner for a relationship involving sex, we also assess the speed and significance of sex within their need system. For instance, there are demisexuals, for whom sex can only begin very late, once love is already established. Demisexuals experience sexual attraction exclusively towards people they love. Conversely, there are individuals for whom sex can already occur during the dating process, even before a partnership has formed.

By inquiring about the relevant factors concerning sexuality, we can bring together people whose sexual or asexual needs are compatible. Dating at Consonance thereby increases the prospect of a stable and happy relationship.

Proximity and Distance

  • Many couples want to live together in one apartment. Other couples prefer the “Living Apart Together” model, where a couple lives in two separate apartments in the same location. Finally, there are long-distance relationships, where couples live far apart from each other. Some do this voluntarily, for others it is a transition due to special factors like career or other commitments. In online dating, many relationships begin as long-distance relationships, with couples often moving in together later.
  • Studies show that couples who live together, have two separate apartments, or live in a long-distance relationship can achieve the same level of satisfaction. What long-distance relationships lose in routine and immediate availability, they can gain in excitement and looking forward to each other. For people who place great value on independence, having two separate apartments can even lead to an improved quality of life.

In our matchmaking service, we assess the desire to live together or have a long-distance relationship, allowing for openness to various models, which expands the search scope. This strongly distinguishes us from the principle of dating apps, where searches are almost exclusively based on geodata and otherwise mainly photos matter. We prioritize matching based on genuine compatibility. Through their online dating, Consonance couples often start as a long-distance relationship and develop a deep connection and high relationship satisfaction. Through their dating at Consonance (Gleichklang), people come together who would otherwise never have met.

Children and Family

Some singles are looking for a relationship with children, while others prefer a relationship without children. Some are happy to get to know a single parent, while others rule this out.

For relationship happiness and the long-term viability of a partnership, it is important that the fundamental family models align. This is a core principle of our matchmaking service.

It would make no sense to suggest singles with opposing relationship models to each other. Someone only seeking a long-distance relationship is unsuitable for someone who absolutely wants to live together. Someone who definitely wants children is not a good match for someone who absolutely does not want children in a relationship. People who only desire a monogamous relationship are not suitable for singles who are only seeking polyamory.

By helping people with various relationship models find success in their partner search, Consonance (Gleichklang) follows its emancipatory and alternative dating approach. With this approach, Consonance has been able to establish itself firmly in the online dating market as a matchmaking service since 2006, making it an important alternative to dating apps, dating sites, and also to the major online matchmaking services. Through dating at Consonance, attitudes and wishes regarding children and family are aligned, ensuring that those who can truly be happy together come together.

Inclusion and Diversity

  • Part of the emancipatory and inclusive approach of Consonance (Gleichklang) is also supporting the search for a partner for people who sometimes find it more difficult to be successful in their search. This concerns people with disabilities, handicaps, physical or mental illnesses, HIV, or sexual dysfunctions, for whom we practice a special acceptance-based option for partner search. At Consonance, there is also the option of partner search for autistics.
  • We support so-called Absolute Beginners, meaning people who have no prior relationship experience. At Consonance, Absolute Beginners can meet other singles who understand their situation. This increases the chances of a successful partner search.

Consonance is also deeply committed to supporting the search for a partner for all sexual orientations, genders, and gender identities:

  • In addition to the binary genders “male” and “female,” at Consonance we acknowledge that there are non-binary people who do not identify exclusively as male or female. Transgender and intersex individuals are equally represented. The concept of gender fluidity (genderqueer) is also included in our matching process.
  • We support our heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, and skoliosexual (interest in non-binary individuals) in their search for a partner, thus covering the entire queer spectrum. Sapiosexual members (Sapiosexuality = sexual attraction through intellect) also have good chances of finding a match through their partner search at Consonance.

Inclusion and diversity are the central guiding principles of dating at Consonance (Gleichklang). Incidentally, every person belongs to a minority in one characteristic or another. Ultimately, everyone benefits from a dating approach based on inclusion and diversity.

Matchmaking with Psychology

The ten most important reasons for choosing dating or finding a friend at Consonance (Gleichklang) are summarized in this article.
 

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