Reputable Online Dating and Matchmaking at Consonance (Gleichklang)
Consonance (Gleichklang) offers a reputable matchmaking service that significantly increases the chances for its members to find a lasting, stable, and happy relationship. For 20 years, members have found happy relationships at Consonance:
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What Defines the Reputability of Dating Platforms at Consonance (Gleichklang)
The foundation of Consonance’s trustworthiness is that there is no photo spam, duplicate profiles, non‑existent profiles, picture collectors, or other people who are not genuinely serious about dating. As a reputable matchmaking agency, we can prevent this by charging all members a moderate participation fee without exception.
You can rely on the fact that all members have proven their seriousness and trustworthiness by paying a participation fee. At Consonance, there are no free offers, because for matchmaking, due to the influx of unserious profiles that would then occur: Free is pointless!
The second aspect of the seriousness and effectiveness of our matchmaking service is the consistent matching based on the alignment of ideas, wishes, preferences, lifestyles, and personalities. We collect extensive characteristics from all members and then use them in the matching process. This way, with our scientific matching algorithm, we ensure that only suitable suggestions are made.
As a reputable matchmaking agency, we do not promise that you will find your dream partner here immediately. Dating is often a lengthy process. However, we do promise that with a membership at Consonance, you will have the best chances of successfully completing your partner search sooner or later.
This promise is based on our experience with many successful matches, through which our members have found the person with whom they want to share their lives. You can significantly improve your matching chances by heeding some tips for effective dating, which we are happy to share with you.
What Is a Reputable Online Dating Search at Consonance (Gleichklang)?
Since our founding in 2006, we at Consonance have implemented all the criteria for a reputable matchmaking service. This gives our members high prospects in their search for a partner.
- Since 2006, we at Consonance have been supporting singles in their dating journey.
With that, we have already fulfilled the first characteristic of a reputable matchmaking agency:
- We are not a flash in the pan, but have been present online for 20 years, bringing people together with our psychology‑based matchmaking.
Now, let’s go into more detail about the quality criteria of dating sites and the possibilities for a reputable online dating experience.
Reputability of Dating Sites and Matchmaking Services
A reputable matchmaking service or dating site should offer singles a real prospect of successfully completing their partner search:
- The better a platform does this, the more reputable it is.
A prerequisite for a successful partner search is that the dating process itself is conducted seriously. After all, if users of a dating site are not genuinely and seriously looking for a relationship, no relationships will form.
To a large extent, the reputability of a matchmaking service or dating platform therefore depends on the seriousness of the search intentions of its users.
A matchmaking service or dating platform can only be reputable if its users are also reputable.
The two are hardly separable:
- If a dating platform is unserious, no serious users will join it, and accordingly, the search of those singles will hardly lead to success.
- If the users are not serious, relationships cannot develop between them, and the dating platform cannot offer reputable matchmaking or a serious partner search.
Serious Users of Dating Sites
How do users interact on a reputable dating platform?
- In a reputable dating search, the interactions between singles should be fair, credible, genuine, well‑founded, reliable, trustworthy, authentic, dependable, sincere, honest, serious, and from the heart.
A reputable matchmaking service strives and takes care that at least the majority of its users meet these criteria of a serious partner search.
This is not only the responsibility of the users, but also of the platform, because it promises good or high chances in the partner search, which it should keep. If the users are not actually looking for a partner, however, that promise cannot be fulfilled.
How Can a Matchmaking Service Ensure a Reputable Partner Search?
A matchmaking service can only ensure a reputable partner search if it guarantees two things:
- The platform supports a serious partner search through the self‑selection of singles – meaning the platform’s users are serious.
- The platform supports serious online dating and getting to know each other through its structure – the actions guided by the platform actually promote finding a partner, not something else.
Self‑Selection of Serious Singles
Dating Apps as a Counterexample
- Online dating is by no means only about partner search. For example, studies on dating apps show that looking for a romantic relationship is only one motive among many others. Dating apps are often used, for instance, to satisfy a craving for excitement or as an expression of trend‑orientation. Simple communication, opportunities for self‑affirmation, casual chats, or the search for erotic contacts are also possible motives for dating app users.
- Dating apps therefore by no means attract primarily singles who are seriously looking for a relationship.
- In addition, profiles can be created very quickly and free of charge. This may encourage people to join just for fun, create multiple profiles, or not log out.
- Unfortunately, there are many fake profiles with false information and fake photos.
- For an erotic chat, a real meeting, or pure fantasy, even married people present themselves as singles.
- Dating apps undoubtedly enable many chats and contacts, but they by no means attract predominantly or even a majority of serious singles who are genuinely and sincerely seeking a partnership.
Dating Sites Are Similar to Dating Apps
The situation is almost identical for dating sites, where profiles can also be set up quickly and usually free of charge. Anyone can scroll quickly from one suggestion to the next.
However, what can suffer as a result is the willingness to commit. Consequently, dating sites often attract a similar crowd as dating apps. Many are looking more for entertainment or casualness; rather few are truly serious and determined to search with dedication for a lasting and ideally lifelong partnership.
Matchmaking Services as a Positive Example
Matchmaking services strongly emphasize the search for serious, long‑term relationships in their external presentation. This attracts singles who themselves have such a serious motive for partner search.
Because other motives are less frequently satisfied at matchmaking services, it is not very rewarding or fun for those people to sign up there.
This is especially true when a fee is required for participation:
- Many people like to use free offers on the internet. That also applies to online dating. Unfortunately, however, this also attracts a lot of less serious people who are not really looking for a partner at all.
Dating Tip
Take a close look at the respective dating sites and ask yourself the following question:
- Will this site mainly attract people who are genuinely looking for a partner and who are also willing and able to invest energy, time, and resources for that purpose?
If you can answer this question with a clear “yes”, then there is a good chance that you may have already found a reputable matchmaking service or other dating site where you can actually succeed in your own partner search.
Structure of Matchmaking Services and Dating Sites
However, this reputable external image as a provider for partner search is only a necessary, but not yet sufficient, condition for speaking of a reputable matchmaking service or a reputable dating platform.
The second central aspect is the structure provided by the matchmaking service or dating site:
- Does this structure encourage a serious, focused, committed, and sincere partner search, or does it rather promote other goals?
Structure of Matchmaking Services and Dating Sites
What actually leads people to meet each other, form relationships, and experience high relationship satisfaction and quality in those relationships?
Whatever the answer may be:
- It is clear that a reputable matchmaking service and dating site must maximize exactly these factors if they want to enable effective and thus reputable partner search.
- Conversely, a reputable matchmaking service must naturally minimize those factors that distract from a serious, genuine encounter and lasting relationship.
Again, I would like to illustrate this thought with negative and positive examples:
Negative Example: Dating Apps
According to studies, dating apps revolve around lightning‑fast photo selection. Free‑text fields are often limited in length and play a minor role. Instead, the external appearance dominates – but only a first photographic impression.
However, many relationships develop because re‑evaluations and preference shifts occur. People sometimes begin to find each other attractive precisely because they like each other and get along well.
Yet there is hardly any room for such paths of relationship formation on dating apps.
Photo, location, age, quick “like” or “dislike”, shortest messages, and constantly viewing new suggestions – this distracts from the willingness to really get to know a person and explore relationship opportunities together.
Many dating apps, for example, limit free text, which puts even more emphasis on the photo.
Based on extensive data, sociologist Rosenfeld from Stanford University concluded that the role of dating apps in partner search is overestimated. Dating apps are more about flirting and looking at photos. A study by Timmermans and Courtois with Belgian Tinder users likewise found that only a small minority find a relationship. The quality and durability of the few resulting relationships were not even examined.
Dating apps invite quick contacts based on external features and convenience (proximity of residence). But their structure lacks the promotion of commitment readiness.
As a result, negative dating phenomena occur particularly often on dating apps:
- Ghosting: People disappear suddenly and without any explanation.
- Breadcrumbing: People keep in touch sporadically, dropping breadcrumbs, but are not actually interested in a relationship.
- Cushioning: People are no longer single but are in a relationship. They continue to use other dating contacts as a backup in case their relationship fails.
- Catfishing: Scammers use completely false information, try to extract data to blackmail, enrich themselves, or fulfill other destructive intentions.
Again, Dating Sites Are Similar
Unfortunately, the situation on dating sites is not much different:
- The structure of arbitrary scrolling does not help compatible singles come together. Instead, it leads to randomness, choice overload, and a consumer attitude that stands in the way of genuine encounter between two people.
Undoubtedly, dating apps and dating sites can facilitate contacts, but their structure tends to hinder a serious partner search. In terms of finding a partner, it is unlikely that a reputable dating process typically takes place there.
Positive Example: Matchmaking Services
Matchmaking services have a completely different ambition than dating apps or dating sites:
- Matchmaking services do not simply want to bring singles into contact with other singles. Rather, they want to bring together those singles who can actually build a happy and lasting partnership with each other.
This is already evident in the fact that free text is much more important on matchmaking services and is given ample space.
By their very orientation, matchmaking services claim to enable a reputable partner search.
Of course, this does not always have to be the case – below I describe some quality criteria for matchmaking services. But at least the basic claim to a reputable partner search is present at matchmaking services, in contrast to dating apps and dating sites.
Seconds‑long photo selection, proximity of residence, free scrolling through profiles – these do not improve the chances of dating; they can even harm them. Matchmaking services counter this by offering a matchmaking process based on a typically psychology‑based matching algorithm.
This is intended to reduce the arbitrariness of free scrolling and the reduction of dating to a split‑second photo selection.
At matchmaking services, compatibility concepts are much more prominent. This also explains why free text plays a much larger role here.
The structure of matchmaking services does not invite just a quick “hello”. Such short messages are standard on dating apps, but a “no‑go” at matchmaking services.
Instead, matchmaking services encourage longer texts describing one’s own person, wishes, relationship ideas, and exploring mutual compatibility for a relationship.
Genuine Dating
In this way, matchmaking services promote behaviors that can actually foster the development of stable romantic relationships.
In this sense, due to their structure, matchmaking services enable a significantly more reputable partner search than dating apps or dating sites.
For a serious partner search, you are therefore in better hands with matchmaking services in the dating field.
This by no means implies that dating apps or dating sites are inherently unserious companies. It only means that for dating, dating apps and dating sites do not offer optimal conditions.
On the other hand, dating apps and dating sites certainly satisfy quick and short‑term entertainment and acquaintance needs with high effectiveness. But that is simply not what is needed for a serious and effective partner search.
But how do the various matchmaking services differ from one another? What criteria can be used to assess the quality and reputability of a matchmaking service?
7 Quality Features of Reputable Matchmaking Services
Psychological Matching Algorithm
It will certainly not be easy for users to judge whether a matchmaking service’s matching algorithm is truly reputable.
In 2012, the psychologists Finkel and colleagues even published an article in which they argued that the matching algorithms of almost all matchmaking services were unreliable.
One reason behind this article is that matchmaking services had not sufficiently proven the scientific nature of their methods. They had not shown that people brought together by their algorithms actually became happier. That is undoubtedly correct, but it would require studies in which partner suggestions are made randomly or algorithmically, and then the resulting relationships would need to be compared for happiness. This exceeds the budget and capabilities of most matchmaking services. Moreover, it might annoy their members because random suggestions would also occur.
Another criticism is that similarity in personality structure correlates only weakly or not at all with relationship satisfaction. Therefore, matching based on personality similarity cannot make relationships happier either. Indeed, the state of research is complex, but the basic argument of Finkel and colleagues is certainly correct that a mere focus on general personality traits falls short.
So, Are All Matchmaking Services Unreputable?
No, that would be a completely exaggerated conclusion. Matchmaking services are not science; they apply psychological findings and theories to create the best possible basis for getting to know each other. But they have to start now and cannot wait decades until scientifically better‑founded methods become available.
Moreover, Finkel and colleagues overlook the possibility that their criterion of relationship satisfaction may be misguided. It is certain that couples have far more commonalities than random pairs. Presumably, those couples who differ in typical study‑surveyed traits also share such similarities; it’s just that not every trait is surveyed. On the basis of a sufficient basic congruence, a foundation for a relationship might be created. Once such a basic congruence exists, it may no longer be important for later relationship satisfaction how high the agreement is on the list of traits captured in studies.
Finally, although there is no conclusive evidence, there are psychological theories, plausible considerations, empirical findings, etc., all pointing to the importance of compatibility. If someone lives vegan, never wants to see meat in the fridge, and wants to advocate for a vegan lifestyle, how can that person be happy in a relationship with someone who sees animals as objects of use and enjoys hunting?
Therefore, for the reputability of matchmaking services, scientific proof is not necessary, but rather the presentation of the algorithm and the psychological findings, considerations, and plausibilities that led to that algorithm.
Transparent Algorithm
We describe our algorithm, for example, in this article.
It can also be helpful for interested parties to see whether a dating platform is backed not only by business administrators but also by psychologists who contribute to the development and further improvement of the matching algorithm.
If this information is provided and you can see that at least some of the criteria used are also important to you, this is a compelling reason to assume that the matching algorithm enables a better pre‑selection than arbitrary scrolling through profiles with the resulting consumer attitude or the seconds‑long photo selection on dating apps.
Focus on Long‑Term Commitment
Anyone who pretends that relationships can be formed through online dating in hours, days, or at least weeks or months is giving false information. For example, our own evaluation showed that Consonance couples were searching for an average of two years.
A reputable dating platform makes it easy for members to stay until they have found a relationship. Any focus on short‑term patterns, such as days, weeks, or months, can only create insecurity and lead to premature abandonment.
Premature abandonment is indeed one of the main reasons why singles can fail even at genuinely reputable matchmaking services. Therefore, a serious partner search is only possible with a long‑term time horizon of an average of two years from the very beginning.
Matchmaking services that charge high monthly fees encourage quick drop‑out. They do not help their members invest the time and patience until the right person enters their life. Instead, they rely on members giving up quickly while new ones join for short periods. This may work for casual contacts that develop much faster, but not for a reputable partner search.
Chances Develop Over Time
The chances of singles finding a partner on dating platforms arise from the seriousness and perseverance of all singles who participate in that matchmaking service. A matchmaking service that, through its fee model, creates the illusion that it can be done in one month, does not encourage patience and perseverance. Rather, it generates implicit attitudes that lead to impulsive decisions and thereby reduce the success prospects of those singles in finding a relationship.
You have the highest chances of finding a partner if you become a member of a reputable matchmaking service to which you commit for a sufficient period of time. This increases the likelihood that you will still be there when the right person can enter your life. A reputable initial membership period is about one year, even though a serious partner search takes an average of two years.
If you succeed earlier, you will be happy about your relationship happiness. If you are not successful, you can consider going elsewhere or extending your membership.
However, an immediate one‑year commitment may be off‑putting to many. Moreover, there may be suspicion that platforms are only trying to profit in an unscrupulous way.
Therefore, the decisive factor is the trust that matchmaking services must earn, which certainly includes a fair, transparent, and affordable pricing structure.
However, I do not want to conceal a disagreement with the consumer protection center here.
Fair Prices
Many matchmaking services offer free basic memberships. However, with these basic memberships, no partners can actually be met because the functions are too limited.
What is well‑received (free) is actually not very reputable:
- It is only about collecting data and recruiting users for the typically expensive premium offers from the pool of free members. Obviously, this is a rather unscrupulous practice.
- Free is not a quality feature in online dating. Because free leads to people with unscrupulous intentions becoming members. This in turn encourages negative dating trends such as ghosting, breadcrumbing, cushioning, catfishing, or so‑called love scammers who feign love to financially exploit people.
- Fair fees mean that the fees are clearly and centrally linked on the site. It is unfair to advertise only with free and hide the actual fees for premium participation.
- But fair fees also mean affordability and a comprehensible relationship to the costs that the dating site itself incurs. After all, fair fees should enable members to participate for a longer period so that the partner search can become successful.
Read here about the fees at Consonance.
Support in the Partner Search
A purely automated matchmaking service with no meaningful personal interaction between the provider and its members often cannot guarantee success in the partner search.
Because people looking for partners do not always read all the information, and the profiles they create are not always well suited for dating. Some also set search criteria that have low success chances. Finally, negative experiences can lead to insecurity and quick abandonment. Also, long‑term singles or Absolute Beginners may have special advisory needs and need encouragement.
Reputable matchmaking services provide their users with a support team that responds quickly and assists users with all technical or content‑related questions regarding their partner search.
Simply setting up a platform and leaving everything else to the users will often lead to resignation and failure in a complex matter like dating.
Manual Profile Review and Protection Against Scammers
Unfortunately, dating portals are plagued by love scammers and other forms of fraudsters. Even on paid portals, this occurs to a lesser but still substantial extent.
Furthermore, incomplete or vague profiles are a nuisance for all participants because they make it harder to get to know each other.
Reputable matchmaking services should therefore manually check every member profile at the beginning, block unsavory profiles, and provide assistance to people with uninformative profiles to bring more expression and authenticity into them.
Automated algorithms are not enough. Only through manual profile review and assistance can safe and effective online dating be ensured. Manual profile checks and assistance are therefore among the core features of reputable matchmaking services.
Handling Inclusion and Diversity
Inclusion and diversity are central requirements that no reputable matchmaking service can or should avoid.
A few examples to illustrate what matchmaking services should consider here:
Sexual Orientations
People looking for partners have a wide range of possible sexual orientations. If this is not taken into account, inappropriate matches occur, unhappy relationships develop, or individuals are excluded from participation. Increasingly, the possible fluidity of sexual orientations is also being addressed. Reputable matchmaking services should therefore cover a broad spectrum, especially since sexual orientations can also combine in an individual. Examples of orientations that should be recorded include heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality or Bi+, skoliosexuality (interest in non‑binary individuals), pansexuality. Likewise, asexuality and BDSM tendencies should be recorded. This is always important for all sides: someone who is not asexual probably does not want an asexual partner. Those without BDSM inclinations will not be satisfied if their partner wants to live out those tendencies. Those with BDSM inclinations, in turn, seek suitable partners, and asexual individuals want someone for a relationship without sex. It is also helpful if fluid forms of sexual orientation can be represented in the profile to enable appropriate self‑selection, such as heteroflexibility or homoflexibility.
Gender Identities
Every reputable matchmaking service should consider at least the three gender identities: woman, man, and non‑binary. It is also helpful if further differentiations, such as transgender identity or intersexuality, can be indicated upon request and taken into account in the matching process. The reality is that diversity exists and should therefore be reflected in matchmaking.
Relationship Models
Infidelity in seemingly monogamous relationships is one of the most common reasons for separation. Infidelity can also cause emotional pain and deep‑seated conflicts and upheavals. The fact is that some people do not want to structure their relationships monogamously. This is referred to as consensual non‑monogamy, which differentiates between open relationships, swinging, and polyamorous relationships. If a matchmaking service matches people with strong preferences for open relationships, swinging, or polyamory with people who desire a monogamous relationship, relationship unhappiness is foreseeable from the start. Therefore, it is absolutely imperative for a reputable matchmaking service to inquire about these different relationship forms. Only then can suitable matches be made.
Neurodiversity
There are many people seeking partners with neurodiverse or neurodivergent traits, such as high sensitivity, ADHD, autism, etc. These individuals sometimes have special matching needs, and reputable matchmaking services should represent them.
Disabilities and Illnesses
People with disabilities, chronic illnesses, mental health conditions also want relationships, just like most other people. Moreover, the majority of people are affected by one or more of these situations sooner or later. In the dating process, those affected may encounter rejection and refusal, which can make the search hurtful and frustrating. Matchmaking services should therefore actively contribute to inclusion and diversity by giving sufficient space to the special matching needs (acceptance) of the people concerned.
Human beings are multifaceted, and partner suggestions can only be suitable if that multifacetedness is also taken into account. Diversity and inclusion are therefore among the criteria that a reputable matchmaking service must fulfill.
No Chat Moderators
You should definitely read the terms and conditions to see whether it says that you are actually communicating not or not only with real people seeking partners, but with chat moderators. Chat moderators are employees of dating platforms who flirt with members to keep them engaged. Often, members then have to pay for each message they write – of course, a completely unscrupulous payment model.
The consumer protection center has published a list of platforms with chat moderators that you can consult. In principle, you should always assume a very high risk of chat moderators if you have to pay per message.
Such systems lead to dating platforms earning more the more messages you write or receive. This creates the incentive to use chat moderators.
The prospects of a successful partner search on dating platforms with chat moderators are zero. Platforms with chat moderators are thus the exact opposite of a reputable partner search.
Success in Your Partner Search
On dating apps and most dating sites, you will certainly be able to have contacts. However, in most cases, a happy and lasting relationship will not develop on these platforms.
Most companies are reputable, but they are not suitable for a real partner search. Because many people join who are not genuinely looking for a relationship. Moreover, the structure with its focus on seconds‑long photo selection or free scrolling tends to promote entertainment and more casual contacts rather than lasting partnerships.
For a reputable partner search, matchmaking services are typically better suited, at least if they are reputable matchmaking services.
The Right Questions for Your Partner Search
With a little analysis and research, you can tell whether a matchmaking service is reputable. The matchmaking service you have in mind is probably reputable if you can clearly answer the following questions with yes:
- Does the matchmaking service use a psychologically grounded matching algorithm whose structure is transparently explained and for whose development psychologists have actually been responsible?
- Does the matchmaking service orient its users to the fact that in reality a serious partner search often takes several years and that quick successes cannot be promised at all?
- Does the matchmaking service charge transparently presented and easily findable prices, without hiding behind free lure accounts without real functionality?
- Does the matchmaking service offer a customer support team that is easy to reach and responds promptly, assisting dating seekers with all technical and content‑related questions?
- Are all profiles manually reviewed by the matchmaking service, are unserious profiles blocked, and are people with non‑informative profiles proactively given help?
- Does the matchmaking service consider the diversity of people and their relationship desires?
- Does the matchmaking service exclude the use of chat moderators?
You answered all questions with “Yes”? In that case, you have probably already found a reputable matchmaking service.
Consonance as a Reputable Matchmaking Service
At Consonance (Gleichklang), we have taken all these criteria of a reputable matchmaking service to heart to ensure a serious partner search:
- Our matchmaking is based on an elaborate and continuously developed psychological matching algorithm. We strive to the best of our knowledge and belief to bring together those singles who can truly be happy with each other. We have evaluated and published the success rates of our matchmaking. By the way, seniors also have very high prospects in their partner search with us.
- We enable our members to participate affordably and long‑term until success, and we make it very clear that a successful partner search often requires a time frame of 1‑3 years. In this way, we promote our members’ perseverance and accompany them on the path to finding a relationship.
- Our fees are transparent and fair. We do not hide behind free lure offers and have no expensive premium packages. All members are treated equally. The social discount ensures that no one is excluded from the partner search.
- We have a member support team that responds on the same day and advises our members on all obstacles or barriers in their partner search. This often helps us remove hurdles and bring our members’ search to a successful conclusion.
- We check every profile before activation, remove unprofessional profiles, and contact those whose profiles appear vague or contradictory. We provide effective support to create an authentic dating profile.
- Diversity and inclusion are central themes at Consonance. By capturing the multifaceted nature of human relationship seeking, we can make truly suitable suggestions, reduce disappointments, and maximize relationship happiness for our members. We consider all legitimate sexual orientations, various gender identities, neurodiversity, different relationship models, and the special needs of singles with disabilities or chronic illnesses.
- Of course, there are no chat moderators at Consonance.
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Since our founding in 2006, we at Consonance have implemented all the criteria for a reputable matchmaking service, giving our members high prospects in their partner search:
