Dating Tips for Single Parents at Consonance (Gleichklang)
The good news first:
- Single parents do not have worse chances in their online partner search than any other singles.
At least this applies at Consonance (Gleichklang). We have evaluated the success rates of single parents in their partner search with us and found the following:
- Single parents: 36% found a relationship if they had not given up for at least one year. 65% found a relationship if they had not given up for at least two years. 79% found a relationship if they had not given up for at least three years.
And these are the success rates of all members in Consonance dating:
- 34% found a relationship if they had not given up (in the event of failure) for at least one year. 61% found a relationship if they had not given up (in the event of failure) for at least two years. 78% found a relationship if they had not given up (in the event of failure) for at least three years.
The matchmaking rates are therefore very similar. If anything, single parents even have slightly better prospects for their partner search with us than the other members!
Every Reason to Be Optimistic
So there is no reason for single parents to give up on online dating:
- Single parents often face a double burden of raising children and working. Not infrequently, single parents are also in a precarious financial situation. Despite all this, the chances of single parents in online partner search are good.
The high chances of success for single parents in online partner search already provide the most important dating tip for single parents:
- Do not be pessimistic, but optimistic and realistic. Because such an activating basic attitude makes it easier for you to bring your partner search to success.
Pessimism, on the other hand, acts as a self-fulfilling prophecy:
- Because you do not believe in the success of your partner search, you do not become active to tackle your partner search and bring it to success.
But this is completely unfounded, because in reality online dating is associated with very good chances of success for you as a single parent.
Special Dating Sites for Single Parents?
Should single mothers, single fathers, or single non-binary parents use special dating apps for single parents or other special dating sites for single parents?
Who searches on such dating platforms for single parents?
- On the one hand, single mothers, fathers, and non-binary parents. They can indeed meet each other here to enter into partnerships and start families together.
- On the other hand, there are men who would like to meet a woman who is a single parent. That can be perfectly fine. But nevertheless, the risk increases that these men have dubious or dangerous (e.g., pedophilic) interests, which is why they are looking for a single mother or non-binary person as a partner.
- It also happens less frequently that such men are looking for single fathers. It is very rare that women with dubious or dangerous intentions are looking for single men, women, or non-binary people.
It can therefore be safer in online dating, especially for single mothers or single non-binary parents and their children, not to choose a special dating site for single parents for their partner search. Precisely because such dating platforms for single parents attract people with dubious intentions. However, single parents need a serious partner search like no other group.
Safe Online Dating for Single Parents
More helpful and safer is an inclusive search on a platform that is not specialized in single parents. However, single parents should also refrain from dating platforms where a filter can be used to specifically search for single parents.
The safest option for single parents are general dating sites where single parents cannot be specifically searched for. We therefore advise single parents to conduct their online partner search on such platforms.
We implement this principle at Consonance (Gleichklang):
- We ask our members whether they are single parents. We also ask whether there is a willingness to enter into a partnership with a single parent. However, we do not allow targeted searches for single parents; we are satisfied with the acceptance.
On this basis, we can provide our single mothers, fathers, and non-binary parents with suggestions where acceptance of their single-parent role exists.
By ensuring this acceptance, the chances that a sustainable relationship can develop increase. Because acceptance of the single-parent role is actually of great importance for a newly developing love relationship. We do justice to this in our matchmaking for single parents.
At the same time, this structure reduces the motivation of dubious or dangerous persons to infiltrate our dating platform. Because although acceptance can be indicated to specifically contact single mothers or single non-binary parents, it is not a direct search filter.
Do Not Choose a Free Dating Platform
Another important tip for partner search for single parents is not to choose a free dating platform:
Certainly, who wouldn’t want to use a free dating offer at some point?
But what is the consequence?
- Free dating sites are literally flooded with dubious people, and unfortunately among them there are always people who can become dangerous specifically for single mothers and non-binary people and their children.
- Single parents also do not want to waste their time communicating with purely virtual contacts that do not exist as real people at all. Because if partner search is free, many people who are not looking for a partnership sign up anyway, sometimes with multiple profiles. Such fake profiles can also contain completely false information about gender, age, or any other area.
- Free dating sites attract dubious people and profiles like moths to a flame. Single parents, and especially single women and single non-binary parents, should therefore stay away from free dating platforms.
At Consonance (Gleichklang), there are only paid memberships, and so the seriousness of the profiles, the security, and the effectiveness of matchmaking increase for everyone. As a single mother or single non-binary parent, you should not take risks in your online dating and not waste your limited time with dubious profiles on free dating sites.
You Are Allowed to Love
Of course, your children play an important role in your life. For a single mother, a single father, or a single non-binary parent, the children are naturally at the center of their own life. That is how it is and how it should be, and your partners must accept and appreciate this. You should consistently pay attention to this in your partner search.
The central role of your children in your life does not, however, have to stand in the way of a successful online partner search and a new partnership.
But it is also important that you still take the time for partner search and relationship. It should not create the impression that you have no resources and no interest in partnership. Your genuine interest in a relationship is central, and you must also convey this in your partner search: I have the desire for a relationship and I am willing to do so.
Talk Openly with Your Children About Your Partner Search
In a certain way, your children are also part of your partner search. Talk to your children in an age-appropriate manner about the situation and your desire for a partnership.
The better your children are informed and the more positively and calmly your children deal with this desire for partnership, the easier your partner search will be.
Under no circumstances is your role as a single parent or are your children an insurmountable obstacle to a new partnership. If you meet a person who can accept and appreciate your children and your parental role, nothing stands in the way of your love happiness.
By recording acceptance, we already carry out a central pre-selection for you at Consonance (Gleichklang). Because obviously, no person who does not accept your children or is not willing to acknowledge that your children will always play a role in the relationship can be considered as a partner for you.
As a single parent, you should not underestimate the willingness of children to change and adapt. Children can very well handle it when the father, mother, or parent brings another person into their life. Children can even experience such a new relationship as an enrichment.
Single Parents Need Self-Care
By no means should you think that as a single parent you have to sacrifice yourself only for your children and have no right to a partnership. Such patterns do not even help your children, who may follow your example and later restrict themselves as well.
Especially as a person responsible for raising children, you should pay attention to your own self-care, for which the area of partnership and love plays an important role.
Free yourself from all feelings of guilt and actively pursue your online partner search, for which you by no means need to neglect your children.
Good Compatibility Leads to Relationship Happiness
As always in partner search, it is all the more important for you as a single mother, father, or non-binary person to pay attention to a good compatibility of future partners with your life perspectives, your life goals, and your lifestyle.
This is another reason not to try a dating app, but to use a serious matchmaking service that actually helps you find a person who suits you. Because on dating apps, getting to know each other happens almost exclusively through photo exchange and geographic proximity, which is not an adequate prerequisite for real compatibility. This is also the reason why many contacts are made on dating apps, but rarely real relationships, as explained in this video.
At Consonance (Gleichklang), we effectively support our single-parent members in their partner search. We bring your partner search to success.
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